TAKE TOTAL CONTROL OF YOUR CHALLENGES
You can’t expect to go through life without meeting problems. They are inevitable part of human experience. Accepting this idea of inevitability of problems will help you to approach them in a robust frame of mind rather than thinking that you are a victim specially singled out by malignant fate.
When confronted with a problem, the first thing to do is to gather all relevant data to get acquainted with all the fact of the case. Then write down exactly what the problem is, stating in black and white. This gives you something definite with which to come to terms. When you access the problem, that will give you something concrete to deal with.
Next, give serious thought to the problem, making sure that such does not degenerate into worry as worry accomplishes nothing. Aim at clear, dispassionate thought, viewing the problem as if it were a friend’s and not your own. Look at it from all angles and from the viewpoint of all concerned. You court disaster if you are entirely selfish in your outlook. The purpose of all this is to discover all possible solutions to the problem.
Having examined it broadly and impartially, carefully examine all possible solutions or course of action. Take knowledge that you have done this will keep you from useless regrets later when you remind yourself that all possible course of action were examined and you chose what appeared to be the best.
Next, eliminates all proposed solutions which are seen in further thought to be impracticable.
You will now find that your list has been whittled down to two or three possibilities. At this stage, it is often good plan to get out into the open air. Go for a walk or ride, preferably somewhere with wide horizons. There out in the open, review the problem afresh. You will find it appears much less formidable. Ask yourself how the difficulty will appear in ten years time or even more. This fresh review will enable you return home, decide which you are going to adopt. As you go to sleep that night, let your last thoughts be upon your decision. If in the morning you still feel it is the best one to take, go ahead!
If you have a friend you think is capable of giving sound advice, consult him. Do this before your final decision, so that you will have the benefit of his views before you decide. Talking things over with one another always help. It enables you to isolate the problem and decide which are the important factors. Even if the friend offers no advice, a sympathetic ear will help you.
Furthermore, as you describe to your friend the courses open to you, you will see them in clearer light. Some will appear impossible even while you speak. Alternatively, one will appear most attractive.
In dealing with problems, remember the time factor. Although some problems solve themselves in time, and delaying tactics are therefore the best form of action for them. Most problems generally get more complicated the longer they are left. You should therefore get grips with problems immediately they occur.
All told, reasonable foresight and imagination can prevent many problems ever arising. Tactics, thoughtfulness and responsible conduct can also keep life largely problem-free.